Books of Interest

If you have read books that have been helpful to you, please let me know and I will add it to the list.

ACOA/Recovery from Dysfunctional Families
Adult Children of Alcoholics
– Janet Woititz
Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics
– Robert J. Ackerman
Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics
– Julie D. Bowden, Herbert L. Gravitz
The Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery
– Wayne Kritsberg
Struggle for Intimacy
– Janet Woititz
It Will Never Happen to Me
– Claudia Black
Healing the Shame that Binds You
– John Bradshaw
Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
– John Bradshaw
Adult Children’s Guide to What’s Normal
– John Friel & Linda Friel
Adult Children: Secrets of Dysfunctional Families
– John Friel & Linda Friel
Lovebound: Recovering from an Alcoholic Family
– Phyllis Hobe
Healing the Child Within
– Charles Whitfield
Attention Deficit Disorder

Driven to Distraction
– E.M. Hallowell & J. Refy
You Mean I'm not Lazy, Crazy or Stupid?
More Attention, Less Distraction


Angry All of the Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Control
– Ron-Potter-Efron
Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger
– Thomas J. Harbin
When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within
– Matthew McKay, Peter D. Rogers, Judith McKay
The Angry Self: A Comprehensive Approach to Anger Management
– Miriam M. Gottlieb
Dance of Anger: Woman’s Guide to Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships
– Harriet Lerner

The Angry Book

– Theodore Issac Rubin
Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion
– Carol Tavris

Calming your anxious mind
Jeffery Brantley
Dying of Embarrassment: Help for social anxiety and phobia
- Markway, Carmin, Pollard, andFlynn
Hope and Help for Your Nerves
– Claire Weeks
The Phobia and Anxiety Workbook
– Edmund Bourne
Healing Fear: New Approaches to Overcoming Anxiety
– Edmind Bourne
Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
– Martha Davis, Matthew McKay, etc.
Overcoming Panic, Anxiety, & Phobias: New Strategies to Free Yourself from Worry and Fear
– Carol Goldman & Shirley Babior
Overcoming Anxiety: From Short-Term Fixes to Long-Term Recover y
– Reneau Z. Peurifoy
Peace From Nervous Suffering
– Claire Weeks

The Assertiveness Workbook
- Randy Paterson
When I Say No, I Feel Guilty
– Manuel Smith
Asserting Yourself
– Sharon Anthony Bower & Gordon H. Bower
Assertive Option: Your Rights and Responsibilities
– Patricia Jakubowski
The Assertive Woman (A New Look)
– Stanlee Phelps & Nancy Austin
Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living
– Robert Alberti & Michael Emmons
Bipolar Disorder
An unquiet mind
by Kay Redfield
Why Am I Up, Why Am I Down
by Granet & Ferber
The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide
by David Milkowitz
The Biploar Child
by Papolos & Papolos
New Hope for People with Bipolar Disorder
by Fawcett, Golden, & Rosenfeld
Detour: My Bipolar Road Trip in 4-D
by Lizzie Simon


Co-dependent No More: Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring For Yourself
– Melody Beattie
Beyond Co-dependency: And Getting Better All The Time
– Melody Beattie
Men Who Hate Women and Women Who Love Them
– Susan Forward & Joan Torres
Women Who Love Too Much
– Robin Norwood
Love is a Choice: Recovery for Co-dependent Relationships
– Robert Hemfelt & Paul Meier
How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
– Howard Halpern

Why are all the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria
– Beverly Tatum

Dealing with Parents

Cutting Loose: A Guide to Coming to Terms with your Parents
– Howard Halpern
Making Peace with Your Parents: The Key to Enriching Your Life and All Your Relationships
– Leonard Felder & Harold H. Bloomfield


Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
– David. Burns
This is essentially a “user friendly” application of CBT.  Burns uses a lot of examples, as well as a lot of hands activities on applications to identify and correct distorted thinking.  He also specifically addresses some really common challenges, such as procrastination, and includes mood rating logs to track progress.
Undoing Depression : What Therapy Doesn't Teach You and Medication Can't Give You
– Richard O'Connor

I Don’t Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
– Terrance Real
Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness
– William Styron
Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability
– Mary Ellen Copeland
You Are Not Alone: Words of Experience and Hope for the Journey Through Depression
– Julia Thorne & Larry Rothstein
How to Heal Depression
– Harold Bloomfield & Peter McWilliams

Developmental Transitions

The Quarterlife Crisis: The unique challenges of life in your twenties
– Alexandra Robbins & Abbey Wilner


The Divorce Handbook
– James Friedman
Learning to Leave: A Woman’s Guide
– Lynnette Triere & Richard Peacock
Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life
– Abigail Trafford
Divorce & New Beginnings: A Complete Guide to Recovery, Solo Parenting, Co-Parenting, and Stepfamilies
– Genevieve Clapp

Domestic Violence

It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence
– Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger R. Hock
Surviving Domestic Violence: Voices of Women Who Broke Free
– Elaine Weiss & Michael Magill
Breaking Free from Partner Abuse: Voices of Battered Women Caught in the Cycle of Domestic Violence
– Mary Marecek & Jamie Moffet

Dangerous Dating: Helping Young Women Say No to Abusive Relationships
– Patricia Riddle Gaddis
What to Do When Love Turns Violent: A Practical Resource for Women in Abusive Relationships
–Marian Betancourt
Men’s Work (to stop domestic violence)
– Paul Kivel
Drugs and Alcohol

Buzzed: The Straight Facts About the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy
– Cynthia Kuhn, Scott Swartzwelder, etc.
Addictive Personality: Understanding Addiction and Compulsive Behavior
– Craig Nakken
Educating Yourself About Alcohol and Drugs : A People's Primer
– Marc Alan Schuckit
Beyond the Influence: Understanding and Defeating Alcoholism
– Katherine Ketcham, William F. Asbury, etc.

Eating Disorders

Intuitive Eating
- Tribole and Resch
Surviving an Eating Disorder: Strategies for Family & Friends
– Michelle Siegel & Judith Brisman
Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide to Recovery
– Lindsey Hall & Monika Ostroff

Secret Language of Eating Disorders: The Revolutionary New Approach
– Peggy Claude-Pierre
Why Weight: A Guide to Ending Compulsive Eating
– Geneen Roth
Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating
– Geneen Roth
Dying To Be Thin: Understanding & Defeating Anorexia and Bulimia
– Ira Sacker & Marc Zimmer
Overcoming Binge Eating
– Christopher Fairburn
The Golden Cage: The Enigma of Anorexia Nervosa
– Hilde Bruch
Bulimia: A Guide To Recovery
– Lindsey Hall & Leigh Cohn

GLBTQ Books for Clients:
AreYou Still My Mother? Are You Still My Family? – Gloria Back
Coming Out: An Act of Love – Rob Eichberg
Is it a Choice? – Eric Marcus
One Teenager in Ten: Writing by Gay & Lesbian Youth – Ann Heron (ed.)
On Being Gay: Thoughts on Family, Faith, & Love – Brian McNaught
Now That I Know – Norma Klein
GLBTQ Books for Parents & Families:
Considering Parenthood – Cheri Pies
Growing Up in a Lesbian Family: Effects on Child Development – Fiona L. Tasker & Susan Golombok
Love, Ellen – Betty DeGeneres
Loving Someone Gay – Don Clark
Now That You Know: What Every Parent Should Know About Homosexuality – Betty Fairchild & Nancy                  Hayward
GLBTQ Books for Therapists:
Beyond Gay or Straight: Understanding Sexual Orientation – J. Clausen
Counseling Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Substance Abusers: Dual Identities – Dana G.
Finnegan & Emily B. McNally
Gays, Lesbians, and Their Therapists – Charles Silverstein
Gay, Straight & In Between – John Money
Handbook of Counseling & Psychotherapy with Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Clients – Ruperto M. Perez,
Kurt A. DeBord, & Kathleen J. Bieschke (eds.)
Handbook of Affirmative Psychotherapy with Lesbians and Gay Men – Ritter & Terndrup
Lesbian & Bisexual Identities: Constructing Communities, Constructing Selves – K.G. Esterberg
Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Identities Over the Lifespan: Psychological Perspectives – A.R. D’Augelli &
C.J., Patterson (eds.)
Lesbians and Gays in Couples and Families: A Handbook for Therapists – Joan Laird & Robert-Jay
Green (eds.)
Lesbian Psychologies – Boston Lesbian Psychologies Collective (eds.)
Lesbian Lives: Psychoanalytic Narratives Old & New – Maggie Magee & Diana C. Miller
Psychological Perspective on Lesbian & Gay Male Experiences, 2 nd Edition – Linda D. Garnets & D.C. Kimmel (eds.)
GLBTQ General
Preventing Heterosexism and Homophobia – Esther Rothblum & Lynne Bond (eds.)
True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism – For Families, Friends, Coworkers, & Helping Professionals – Mildred C. Brown & Cloe Ann Rounsley
A Legal Guide for Lesbian & Gay Couples – Hayden Curry, Denis Clifford & Frederick Hertz
Grief and Loss

Living Through Mourning: Finding Comfort and Hope When a Loved One Has Died
– Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
The Courage to Grieve
– Judy Tatelbaum
Living When a Loved One Has Died
– Earl A. Grollman
Necessary Losses
– Judith Viorst
On Death and Dying
– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
The Drama and Trauma of Losing a Child
by Douglas Daher
The Mourning Handbook : The Most Comprehensive Resource Offering Practical and Compassionate Advice on Coping With All Aspects of Death and Dying
– Helen Fitzgerald
Motherless Daughters
– Hope Edelman

Health, Mind-Body, Spirit

Full Catastrophe Living
– Jon Kabat-Zinn
Fire in the Soul: A New Psychology of Spiritual Optimism
– Joan Borysenko
The Power is Within You
– Louise Hay
Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy
– Sarah Ban Breathnach
If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules
– Cherie Carter-Scott
The Road Less Traveled
– Scott Peck
Mental Illness

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life: The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Anger, and Impulsiveness
– Daniel G. Amen

Moodswing (about Bipolar Disorder)
– Ronald R. Fieve
Why Am I Up, Why Am I Down? Understanding Bipolar Disorder
– Roger Granet
New Hope for People With Bipolar Disorder
– Jan Fawcett, Bernard Golden, Nancy Rosenfeld
Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Consumers, and Providers
– Fuller Torrey
Coping With Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families
– Kim Tornval Mueser
How to Cope With Mental Illness in Your Family : A Self-Care Guide for Siblings, Offspring, and Parents
– Diane T. Marsh

Men’s Issues

I Don’t Want to Talk About It
– Terrance Reel
Men in Therapy: The Challenge of Change
– Richard Meth & Robert Pasick

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Tormenting Thoughts and Secret Rituals: The Hidden Epidemic of Obessive-Compulsive Disorder
– Ian Osborne (1998). NY: Pantheon Books.
Treatment of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
– Gail Steketee (1993). NY: Guilford.
Stop Obsessing! Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions
– Edna Foa & Reid Wilson


The Procrastinator's Handbook: Mastering the Art of Doing It Now
– Rita Emmett
Procrastination: Why You Do it, What To Do About It
– Jane Burka & Lenora Yuen
The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play
– Neil A. Fiore

Do It Now! : Break the Procrastination Habit
– William J. Knaus, & John W. Edgerly


Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up’s Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents
– Nina Brown
Raising a Responsible Child
– Don Dinkmeyer and Gary McKay
How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk
– Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Parent Effectiveness Training (PET)
– Thomas Gordon
Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the College Years
– Karen Levin Coburn


Never Good Enough: Freeing Yourself From Chains of Perfectionism
– Monica Ramirez Basco
Perfectionism: What's Bad About Being Too Good
– Miriam Adderholdt

Never Good Enough: How to Use Perfectionism to Your Advantage
– Monica Ramirez Basco
Transformation Soup: Healing for the Splendidly Imperfect
– Sark
Too Perfect:: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control
– Allan E. Mallinger & Jeannette Dewyze
Overcoming Perfectionism: The Key to Balanced Recovery
– Ann W. Smith
When Perfect Isn't Good Enough: Strategies for Coping With Perfectionism
– Martin M. Antony

Rape and Sexual Assault

I Never Called it Rape: Recognizing, Fighting and Surviving Date Rape
– Robin Warshaw
Recovering from Rape
– Linda A. Ledray & Linda E. Ledray
When You Are the Partner of a Rape or Incest Survivor
– Robert Barry Levine
Sexual Assault: Will I Ever Feel Okay Again?
– Kay Scott

– Helen Benedict & Susan Brison
Healing Your Sexual Self
– Janet Woititz

After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back
– Nancy Venable Raine
Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery
– Patricia Weaver Francisco
Trust After Trauma: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors
– Aphrodite Matsakis

Relationship Breakup

Letting Go: A 12-Week Personal Action Program to Overcome a Broken Heart
– Zev Wanderer & Tracy Cabot
How to Break Your Addiction to a Person
– Howard Halpern
Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
– Bruce Fisher, Robert Alberti, & Virginia Satir

Relationship (General Couples Issues)

Dance of Anger: Woman’s Guide to Changing Patterns of Intimate Relationships
– Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Intimacy
– Harriet Lerner
The Couple’s Journey: Intimacy as a Path to Wholeness
– Susan M. Campbell
The seven principles for making marriage work
- by Gottman and Silver
10 lessons to transform your marriage
- Gottman and Declaire
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
– Harville Hendrix
Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide For Singles
– Harville Hendrix
Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner
– Phil McGraw
Communicating in Relationships: A Guide for Couples & Professionals
– Frank D. Fincham, etc.
In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want
– Iyanla Vanzant
Passionate Attachments: Thinking About Love
– Willard Gaylin & Ethel Pearson
Couple’s Guide to Communication
– John M. Gottman
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
– John Gray
We Have To Talk
– Samual Shom & Janet Surrey

Self Esteem

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem
– Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
– Nathaniel Branden

How to Raise Your Self-Esteem
– Nathaniel Branden
Revolution From Within: A Book of Self Esteem
– Gloria Steinem
Women And Self Esteem
– Linda Sanford & Mary Ellen Donovan
Intimate Connections
– David Burns
Ten Days to Self Esteem
– David Burns
Confidence: Finding it and Loving it
– Barbara DeAngelis
Love 101: To Love Oneself is the Beginning of a Lifelong Romance
– Peter McWilliams

Self-Help/Personal Growth (General)

– Tal Ben-Shahar
Heart of the Mind
– Connirae Andreas & Steve Andreas
Using Your Brain for a Change
– Richard Bandler
A New Guide To Rational Living
– Albert Ellis & Robert Harper


Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation
– Steven Levenkron
A Bright Red Scream: Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain
– Marilee Strong
The Scarred Soul: Understanding & Ending Self-Inflicted Violence
– Tracy Alderman
Bodily Harm: The Breakthrough Healing Program for Self-injurers
– Jennifer Kingsonbloom, Karen Conterio, Wendy Lader
Sexual Abuse

Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
– Wendy Maltz
Allies in Healing
– Laura Davis (for spouses of sexual abuse victims)
Courage to Heal: Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
– Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding
– Wendy Maltz
A Safe Place: Beyond Sexual Abuse
– Jan Morrison


Ask Me Anything: A Sex Therapist Answers the Most Important Questions
– Marty Klein
Your Sexual Secrets: When to Keep Them, When and How to Tell
– Marty Klein
Intellectual Foreplay: Questions for Lovers and Lovers-To-Be
– Eve Eschner Hogan
Arousal: Bodies and Pleasure
– M. Roth
Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship and Dating
– R. Don Steele


Shyness: A Bold New Approach: Managing Your Shyness at Work, Making Small Talk, Navigating Social Situations
– Bernardo Carducci
The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook: Proven Techniques for Overcoming Your Fears
– Martin M. Antony & Richard P. Swinson
How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends
– Don Gabor
Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties
– Jonathan Berent & Amy Lemley
Hidden Face of Shyness: Overcoming Social Anxiety
– Franklin Schneier & Lawrence Welkowitz
People Skills
– Robert Bolton

Stress Management

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
– M. Davis, E. Eshelman & M. McKay
Coping With Stress in College
– Mark Rowh
Kicking Your Stress Habits
– Donald A. Tubesing
Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers: Guide to Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping
– Robert Sapolsky
Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life
– Jon Kabat-Zinn


No Time To Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One
– Carla Fine
When Bad Things Happen To Good People
– Harold Kushner

Time Management

Time Management from the Inside Out: The Foolproof System for Taking Control of Your Schedule and Your Life
– Julie Morgenstern
Stop Clutter From Stealing Your Life
– Mike Nelson

Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
– David Allen
Checklists for Life: 104 Lists to Help You Get Organized, Save Time, and Unclutter Your Life
– Kirsten M. Lagatree
How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life
– Alan Lakein


Living in Balance: A Dynamic Approach for Creating Harmony & Wholeness in a Chaotic World
– Joel Levey & Michelle Levey
Journal to the Self: 22 Paths to Personal Growth
– Kathleen Adams
Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
– Christine Northrup
Eating Well For Optimum Health: The Essential Guide to Food, Diet, and Nutrition
– Andrew Weil
Spontaneous Healing : How to Discover and Embrace Your Body's Natural Ability to Maintain and Heal Itself
– Andrew Weil

Women’s Issues
The healing Connection
– Jean Baker Miller
A Woman’s Book of Life (biological, psychological & spirituality of the feminine life Cycle)
– Joan Boryseniko
The Mismeasure of Women
– Carol Tavris
Empowering Women
– Louise Hay